Detachment, Surrender and Love
Personal Accounts and Experiences

Throughout my life I've had many experiences that, in years past I would have categorized and labeled as either "Good" or "Bad."

I've learned to change that perspective over time. Why? Simply because I've learned that regardless of what the experience might be, regardless of how unsettling or unpleasant you might "perceive it to be as you're experiencing it, there is always good to be found in it.

Granted it can take time, in some cases maybe even years before you discover what "good" could possibly come from some undesirable event condition or circumstance that you would rather not have encountered, but in each and every case there's always something to be gained.

The bottom line is that now, based on the many experiences I've had and after personally witnessing the eventual benefit derived at some point, I consider them ALL to be good.

There are also those that, from a strictly logical perspective I consider to be absolutely profound. You know, those kinds of experiences that make you really open your eyes, wake up and take notice. The that seem to transcend far above what's often considered to be logical or practical so many of us have been conditioned to believe and perceive to be impossible.

Although I'm well aware that there are people who think that any significant outcomes in life requires analyzing, figuring things out or require some form of excessive physical effort, my experiences tell me otherwise.

Yes, that means I've lived and experienced them personally.

Although I won't be talking specifically about these particular incidences today, I mention them because it was due to those particular occurrences that set me on an intensive search and led me to the realization that the biggest, most amazing and life changing outcomes in life...what most would consider to be miraculous in fact, can and do happen in ways that most perceive and believe to be far too simple to yield such profound results and initiate such an awesome creative power.

The real fact of the matter is, as I've personally discovered and experienced for myself, it's the most simple concepts that we discover in life that can and do yield the greatest results.

As I've sought deeper understanding over the years in relation to those outcomes, answers have been provided as to how and why they happened as they did. It's amazing to me how we can look back on those previous experiences and find that what we may have been doing at the time, or in this case NOT doing, which is precisely what "allowed" them to unfold, can seem so obvious and become so crystal clear.

How could NOT doing anything possibly produce ANY type of result let alone such significant and seemingly miraculous ones?

At the conclusion of this article I believe you'll have a deeper understanding and even more importantly an extremely simple yet powerful process that you can use personally to begin experiencing these profound results for yourself.

It's not even a process really, it's simply a mindset. It's about shifting your paradigms and unlearning some of what you may have been taught and have been led to believe is necessary to achieve any significant results in your life.

As I think back and ponder on what transpired during those times when I've personally experienced them, I am continually reminded how crucial detachment or "allowing" was in resolving them. I've since learned just how important this detachment (surrender) thing is in resolving ANY life issue, regardless of how small and irrespective of it's "perceived" enormity.

Surrender...when applied, and mixed with another essential ingredient that I'll be sharing with you soon, initiates a creative force so powerful that no "perceived" problem can withstand it. It's a form of pure and non-forceful power yet at the same time so utterly immense that human words are unable to accurately describe it.

Anyway, in this article I thought I'd share some of what I've come to understand based on personal experiences in my own life in the hope that it might assist you in better understanding and more importantly in creating more of the desired outcomes that you may aspire to experience in your life.

A few of those memories are as follows...

Looking back many years when I was just a young boy living with my Grandparents in Houghton Lake Michigan, I recall just how much I LOVED to go fishing. Northern Pike fishing in particular was something that I always looked forward to.

I come from a long line of outdoorsmen who lived for fishing, boating, skiing and generally enjoying the miracle of nature, and that love carried over into my generation as well as into the next generation, namely my sons.

Now you might be asking yourself..."What could Pike fishing and loving nature possibly have to do with detachment?"

Here's how it ties in for me...

I remember like it was yesterday the constant anticipation I felt always hoping that one of my relatives (I didn't care which one) would make the JOYOUS announcement that we were going fishing the following morning. At that point in my life I don't think even a Million Dollars (or anything else for that matter) could have made me any happier or more excited than spending several hours out on Houghton Lake in anxious anticipation of catching the trophy Pike.

Being out in the boat with my Dad, Grandfather and/or one of my Uncles was literally what I lived for at the time. In fact, for a young boy with the love I had for the outdoors It was quite literally what I considered to be "Heaven on Earth."

When this JOYOUS event was announced it would be difficult for me to get to sleep that night and I'd be awake by no later than 5:00 am the next morning ready and waiting to head to the lake, many times having to wake everybody else up.

Anyway once we got the gear loaded up, made it to the bait store and "finally" made it out on the water, I remember sitting there in the boat eyes glued in hopeful anticipation, watching the "Humungous" bobber sitting on top of the water just waiting for that Granddaddy Pike to take an interest in the giant minnow that I was using for bait.

I recall sitting there, eyes fixated and chomping at the bit, anxiously anticipating and maybe even at times hoping, "wishing" and praying all at the same time that my bobber would be the first to take off skimming across the surface of the water and eventually disappear.

Being only six or seven at the time, although I did enjoy being out on the water, I "loved" the catching fish part FAR more, and I wasn't nearly as excited or patient about the waiting in between. As a result after keeping my eyes fixated on that bobber for awhile, attempting to hope and wish it under the water, many times for an hour or two without any action, my attention would sometimes sway and I'd become involved focusing on or doing something else, taking my attention completely away from fishing and the bobber altogether.

Amazingly enough, it seemed that almost without fail when I did, whoever was in the boat with me in no time would be yelling, "Chuck, your bobbers gone!! Grab your pole, grab your pole!!"

Oh man...now THIS was REALLY the part I lived for!! I'd grab the fishing pole, count to ten before I attempted set the hook (that's what they taught me to do) and most times I'd have my desire fulfilled once we netted the fish. Then, I'd re-bait the hook with a minnow, cast it back out as far as I could and the cycle continued.

Now obviously at the time I didn't know ANYTHING about The Law of Attraction, surrender, detachment, Universal Law or anything of the sort and being that young didn't have even an inkling of a clue as to why it always seemed to happen that way. I just remember that it did.

It wouldn't be until many years later and plenty more experiences, that I finally discovered the answer.

Ok, fast forward to my teen years...

Entering into my teen years in the early 70's, like any red blooded young American boy my primary focus started shifting to girls. Actually that interest began at a much earlier age but up until this stage in my life it wasn't THE most important thing...Well, NOW it was. Although I still really enjoyed the fishing, boating and all the other outdoor nature stuff, I'll have to say that hunting became my primary focus...girl hunting that is. In fact, girls became my MAIN focus. Thank God for creating such a "Wonderful Creature." :)

I recall becoming really infatuated with several and spent the majority of my time trying to impress as many of them as I could in the hopes that one of the many that I had developed "the hots" for might take even an inkling of interest in me as I had developed for some of them.

It's funny to me now that as I look back, I recall the harder I tried to gain there admiration...the more I looked and chased and attempted to "catch" me one, it seemed that, way more times than I care to admit, as I would find and get to know what I considered to be what I considered to be a "really special" one, and put my best Casanova moves on them, to my dismay I would often hear the dreaded, "I really like you Chuck, but can't we just be friends." AAAHHHHHGGGGG!!! I grew to REALLY despise and even fear that phrase!!! (You guys don't pretend like you don't know what I'm talking about.)

Ironically, (at least I thought it was ironic at the time) the ones that I had NO interest in or desire to "catch" many times would take an interest in me. I'm not certain how many times I would have to use those same words that I had come to dread. (You know the "Can't we just be friends" thing.) For some reason, just like my Pike fishing experience, it would take me years to "figure out" why, but with the little understanding I had at the time, I continued to anxiously seek out and land the "Love of my life" and with numerous failed attempts along the way.

Whenever I would meet one that gave me those butterflies, rocket ships, fireworks and all that, (You know what I'm talking about) and I'd develop that deep yearning to be desired by the one that made my heart go "pitter patter" it seemed like they would already be interested in someone else or "just want to be friends." It goes without saying that too much of that can be tough on a young male teens ego!!

As much as I didn't like it at the time, like everything in life it eventually provided me with some priceless information, based on personal experience that would, many years later provide me with a reference point that would eventually lead and enable me to better understand how and why even that, at times not so pleasant turn of events happened the way it did.

Ok, looking back on that period, after years of wondering how that situation could possibly be "good", eventually it dawned on me that when I would let the anxious anticipation settle, temporarily shift my focus from anxiously seeking out and finding this "Love of my life", (many times due to a deflated ego) and become involved in something other than "Love Hunting" for awhile, before I knew it one of those "special creatures" would happen along, express interest and "Puppy Love" would ignite.

Just like Pike fishing, It ALWAYS seemed to happen when I was least expecting it.

Since those times I've observed in many peoples lives, whether it be in the area of relationships or otherwise, that when they are frantically searching for "just the right one" and "needing to be loved", anxiously placing all their focus on finding love or a special relationship, many times although on occasion they might rush into a temporary relationship that they later find short lived or unfulfilling, it's not until they are "least expecting" or "not looking for it to happen that it does.

There's a very specific reason for that. Would you like to know what it is?

Here's what I've concluded based on my search and experiences thus far...

First of all there's a key element that I haven't really mentioned yet. That key element is Love. Love and Surrender initiates a force so powerful, there is absolutely NOTHING that can contain it...and I do mean NOTHING.

When we express a desire regarding the attainment of something, in essence we are expressing love.

When we express a desire and then place our anxious anticipation or "needy focus" on "wanting" and "needing" it, whether it be a fish, a girl, a million dollars or whatever else you'd like to fill in the blank with, we are in essence delaying whatever it might be by keeping our predominant focus on the "lack of" and as a result receive just that.

Although we may have a sincere desire to attain whatever it might be, at the same time the "not having" or the "lack of having" and the anxiousness created as a result somehow blends with the desire and changes the frequency that only serves to delay the desired outcome.

If you're familiar with The Law of Attraction you already know what I mean by frequency. If not, in a nutshell, based on the Law of Vibration, our thoughts and emotions, like EVERYTHING else in existence are comprised of energy and emits a vibrational resonance that is projected out into the Universe, and we attract outcomes that harmonize with that frequency.

Let's use a metaphor and relate it to the growing a plant...

Desire combined with "clingyness" is much like planting a seed and applying pre-emergent on top of it. Although I believe once planted something "must" grow, until the pre-emergent wears off it can't and won't.

Although the desire seed has been planted, many times through our own "clingy focus" and anxious anticipation, we keep the outcome from happening as quickly as it could and would if we would just learn to nurture the initial "thought" seed and "allow" it to grow. When we learn to do that and simply allow nature to take her course, we literally attract the desired outcome to us.

This "allowing" is in essence a form of surrender or detachment that keeps us from having to figure out the how and when it will show up and with seemingly magical certainty it always does. In fact, it has to. Every law of nature would be violated if it didn't so the chances for it NOT happening are literally ZERO.

I've also come to believe that when this happens (this planting of a desire seed) and we attempt to force it, whatever it is, and it doesn't happen in the time frame that WE think it should, many times we go about doing something else and forget about those seeds which we previously planted and through our own "unconscious doing" kept from sprouting, only to return later once we've "forgotten" that we planted those seeds initially and find a fully mature plant failing to remember that it was the initial desire seed that we planted which created it. Then we think to ourselves, "Wow where did that come from?"

One thing is absolutely certain...

We don't need to stay fixated on the bobber anxiously anticipating when it might go down, or attempt to impress or force ourselves on nature for literal miracles to occur. Just as we can't force the bud of a flower open without messing it all up, we can't force the things that we desire in our lives to happen either, although many times we sure try.

The beauty of it is that we don't have to. The Plan (what I like to call The Perfect Plan) was created so simply, so magnificently, that all we have to do is establish in our own minds the what (desire) and the why, place our attention on the love of having it, un-attach from the outcome...more specifically the when and the how and it shows up!!

When we can learn to plant the seeds of desire and through the deeper understanding that we've each had the good fortune to be exposed to, "Know" or have the "Faith" that the harvest will be forthcoming, detaching from the how and when, enabling us to go about our daily activities, open and receptive to the signs, willing and ready to take the inspired actions that "feel good" and that we feel directed us to take, without "trying" to make it happen or "forcing" it, the most miraculous and perfect results will be attracted to us MUCH FASTER and in ways that seem effortless.

Just like the flower, the bud will open up and blossom all on it's own, with seemingly magical certainty and before you know it, the beauty and splendor will be revealed and experienced just by allowing nature to take it's natural and perfectly constructed course.

As it relates to you and your outcomes in life, you only need to plant the "desire" seeds in the soil of infinite potential, nurture them, fully trusting and "knowing" that they "must" grow, continue joyfully doing the things that are necessary in each area of your life, remaining open and attentive (but not clingy) to the inevitable means that will show themselves, acting on those that "feel" right and in no time your harvest will be ripe and ready for reaping.

All you have to do is learn to "allow" nature to take it's course without analyzing, fretting, and remaining focused on how and when YOU think the plan should unfold.

The Universe is ALWAYS 100% of the time absolutely perfect in it's timing. It's more than capable of providing the means for your desires to unfold regardless of how BIG they might be. Your "worrying", "fretting" and anxious expectation about the how or when will only serve to delay the inevitable outcome.

Right now, at this very moment as I write, the process is VERY clear to me. In fact...It is SO simple.

Next week or next month it's possible that I'll allow externals to temporarily take my focus to other areas causing me to forget how simple it all really is. But right now I'm invincible and during these times I feel it's important to share what is going on in my little corner of the world and in my mind, hoping that it might lift someone up who needs it or provide just a bit of insight that may help them to see the sheer simplicity as well.

If and when I need a little encouragement or insight at some point in the future due to "forgetting" myself, It's my hope that one of you might have also posted something that will assist in "slapping me upside the head" and bringing me back to the path that I currently "Know" we are heading down.

I am grateful and humbled beyond words to be enabled and empowered to share with you and contribute to you in such a way that will, if you'll allow it to, provide benefit in your life. I am also extremely grateful and honored that I have been provided the ability to do so in a way that harmonizes with and fulfills my own passion and purpose.

Thank you for dropping by Abundance-and-Happiness.com and it is my hope that you will benefit in some way from the information and personal experiences that I've had such a pleasure of writing for and sharing with you.

Here's some timeless words of wisdom that may assist you in solidifying in your own mind just how true and powerful what I've shared is and how it can and will provide whatever desires you may hold for yourself if you'll simply develop an understanding of detachment and choose to apply it in your life...

"And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

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