Trust Even When It Hurts
Especially When It Hurts
So many times those who set out to accomplish a specific goal, vision or fulfill what they may have discovered to be their purpose, often times, due to unexpected obstacles along the way...obstacles in the form of events, conditions and circumstances that they weren't "aware" might be a necessary part of the process, often make the unfortunate choice of giving up prematurely.
Often times these obstacles are "wrongfully perceived" as setbacks that can be misinterpreted as a sign that the fulfillment of the goal "Wasn't meant to be" when in reality the opposite is true.
Far too many times the fulfillment of heartfelt hopes, dreams, and desires go unnecessarily unfulfilled, for some their entire lives, due to this misconception and often times is due merely to a lack of deeper understanding regarding their true power and how those things which we most desire come into being.
Thinking back today and reflecting on the past years since I've started my site Abundance-and-Happiness.com, and then going back even further pondering on the numerous events which have transpired and led to the unfolding of the current outcomes...more specifically the ideals and visions I'd personally established, the absolute perfection of the process which has led to the present and enabled their unfolding thus far is so crystal clear.
As things continue to progress and I set newer and higher intentions, it becomes more and more apparent every day just how perfect and precise creation is, and how, once we set and focus our mind on an end result, whatever that might be, the process begins and unfolds perfectly and flawlessly without fail as quickly or as slowly as we allow.
I share the following for 2 reasons. The first being that it may help someone to better understand that what might sometimes be "perceived" as negatives as they progress toward their inevitable outcome, in reality isn't "negative" at all.
The second being to serve as my own reminder should I need it at some point in the future.
Although you can relate to whatever subject you choose, this particular reference relates to relationships.
My Vision and Relationships
Looking back now at various relationships I had established in years past, both casual as well as intimate prior to discovering, committing to and taking action toward fulfilling my newly discovered purpose, it dawns on me that those which would serve no purpose or perhaps even hinder the manifestation of my vision, have through a process of time dissipated and dissolved in a physical sense.
Although that can at the time it's happening prove to be very confusing and in some cases be extremely painful, as I've since realized and discovered, those occurrences were necessary to allow the vision to unfold.
Thinking back further, to the beginning of my choice to develop deeper understanding concerning previous events experienced in my own life, more specifically making a conscious choice to "awaken" and delve into discovering the deeper aspects of the how's and whys which make up our life experiences, I came to the realization that our ultimate calling, our "True" purpose for being here is to serve others in some fashion in whatever degree of service that might be.
As a result of this discovery, new commitments were made and visions set in place that would enable me to fulfill what I had discovered through my own personal search, to be not only my purpose but my passion as well.
Since that decision, amazing insights have been revealed with regard to a few events that have transpired in my life since, specifically in the area of relationships, which at one point I found to be not only frightening and confusing, but very painful as well.
As I sought clarity and understanding concerning these issues, as always, when I made the choice to "allow" it, additional insight was provided that clearly showed me that in order for the manifestation of my ideals to become possible, these temporarily "painful events" would also prove to be necessary.
Why would "perceived difficulties", pain and confusion, especially in the area of relationships be necessary to carry out a vision?
Here's my perspective…..
As individuals we are each provided the inalienable right of free will. Because you can't, with any hope of long term sustainable success, interfere with the free will of others, due to individual choices made by those involved, you may experience pain and what you may "perceive" and experience at the time they are happening, as loss.
You could I suppose give up on your dream to satisfy someone elses desires but I personally believe that at some point that can and does lead to resentment due to a sense of unfulfillment in yourself.
Another choice would be to develop the understanding that we are each unique, creative, and individual and hold desires for ourselves that may not align with the desires of those we have previously chosen to surround ourselves with, and accept the fact that temporary pain and loss may be inevitable.
But why does this happen?
For me personally, by making a conscious choice to "awaken" and as a result discovering the fact that we are here to serve others in whatever capacity that might be, you are in essence raising the vibrational frequency or resonance of yourself.
In so doing you may discover that due to the individual choices of others in your immediate circle who also possess the same inalienable right to utilize their free will in the way that they choose, might make the choice to remain where they are in their understanding. As a result they may find themselves unable or unwilling to accept this "New" you.
The outcome is that you will soon discover that the vibrational resonance which attracted these relationships to you at the onset changes and begins to repel rather than attract as it once did. The decisions that must be made as a result of that reality, in order to fulfill what you have defined as your vision, desire, goal or purpose can, as I've experienced prove to be painful.
But there is good news….
Just as certainly, your newly created resonance will, with seemingly magical certainty, begin attracting those who can and will assist and support you in fulfilling whatever your vision might be, in some cases immediately IF you'll simply recognize and accept the process.
Yes it is possible that you may need to make difficult choices which lead to experiences that you "perceive" at the time as great loss along the way. But if you'll dig deeply enough you'll soon discover that what you once may have perceived as great loss was a necessary occurrence in bringing about what you held as the ideal and what can and will be gained as a result far outweighs that which you at one point "perceived" as lost.
That's a long winded approach to explaining that...
All things "truly do" work together for a greater good.
Obstacles and challenges in life are inevitable regardless of your choices to become conscious or remain an unconscious creator. The beauty of it is that by choosing to become conscious, you develop the understanding that each challenge experienced, regardless of how painful it may "seem" at the time holds within it a specific and greater purpose and is an essential and necessary event in the fulfillment of your desired outcomes.
One thing is absolutely certain. What you remain fixated upon in mind you will see manifest in the physical world. If your intention is pure, your commitment rock solid, your heart truly focused on what will serve and benefit the most people, the Universe, God, Ultimate Energy, Source or whatever you may choose to call Creator will conspire to draw to you precisely what is required, in absolute perfect timing, the people, circumstances, and conditions to make your hopes, dreams, and desires a reality just as you have envisioned.
Part of that process may also require that certain people, events, and/or conditions leave your life as well, some of which you may at the time find difficult, unpleasant and perhaps even painful.
Although possible, there is another aspect to consider as well that is just as true...
You could make the unfortunate and unwise choice of remaining unconscious and/or choose NOT to go after what you want which in my personal situation was to fulfill my passion and purpose. You will with the same certainty attract to you that which your predominant focus remains fixated upon, however unconscious that focus may be, which will result in an unawareness of what you are creating and leaving the possibility that you go through your entire life feeling a void and unfulfilled.
But be assured that you are ALWAYS creating something. You and you alone are responsible for the events conditions and circumstances being experienced in your life, and that which you perceive as "good" as well as what you may perceive as "bad" is happening as a result of a perfect and immutable process that guarantees due to "Unconditional Love" that you will receive, in exact accordance with what you ask, the result of which is determined only by the quality of your focus...your consciousness.
I can say from personal experience that becoming conscious, going boldly forward toward your "desired" outcome and possibly experiencing a little short term discomfort as a result is far more rewarding and will provide far grander and more fulfilling outcomes in the long term than remaining unconscious, attracting by default and possibly leaving this world with unfulfilled hopes, dreams and desires still within you.
Developing the awareness that EVERY event, EVERY condition, and EVERY circumstance experienced along the way is happening and unfolding as a result of an unwavering and immutable "Perfect Plan" based only upon the choices which YOU choose to make is an extremely empowering and very comforting reality.
Every thought that you hold, every emotion you experience, every action that you take from day to day represents the turning of the pages in your book called life and flows perfectly with unwavering certainty to determine what the next chapter holds.
You have been provided the inalienable right of free will to write your book as you choose. You have been given the incredible gift of choosing what each chapter will include. Doing so purposefully and with focused conscious intent will enable what you envision and hold as sacred to result in a joyous and rewarding conclusion just as you asked and intended.
Whether you currently are or at some point should you make the choice to look deeply enough and seek out the answers, regardless of how chaotic life may sometimes appear as a result, the realization comes when one day you look up and realize that the "perceived" chaos and pain was a necessary part of your vision being fulfilled. You'll begin to clearly understand that the rewards provided and the fulfillment experienced as a result are far greater and grander than what you may have "perceived" as loss during the journey.
The Universe, God, Higher Power or whatever you might perceive Source to be, ALWAYS, 100% of the time operates with flawless perfection without a single atom being out of place EVER. From a more spiritual perspective "All things work together for good." What an incredibly powerful, unshakable and comforting truth.
It is essential that you become conscious of what you are focusing on and make certain you "Truly" have a desire to create and experience what you're envisioning, because one thing is absolutely certain. That which you place your focus on will with unwavering certainty unfold just as you instruct.
Somewhere along the way you may have to experience temporary discomfort and pain to make your current vision a reality in your life. There may come a time when you may have to just trust and keep on keeping on even when it hurts.
What you hold as sacred in thought, heart, word and deed you will, with absolute certainty, receive. Become conscious of what that sacredness is for you. Ask for it, envision it, remain open to and act upon the inspired instruction and direction that you will no doubt receive, remain in trust even when it hurts, and life can and will become a joyous, rewarding and fulfilling experience.
Consistently advance in discovering and understanding a Higher Truth. Learn to operate consciously and in vibrational harmony within it's never changing boundaries, consciously harmonizing your thoughts, words, and actions with it's inevitable creation and through the simplicity, perfection and unwavering process of creation, you will soon discover what it means to experience "heaven" on earth.
Even though I, from an intellectual standpoint have developed a deeper understanding as to how it is that our experiences unfold in life, I am still in total awe as to the perfection and unwavering certainty of how each comes to be. I suppose I always will be.
The following quote is one of my personal favorites and portrays the seemingly magical power of creation perfectly.....
"The moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decisions, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now." -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
I'll close with this thought…..
It's your book. It's your life. It's your right as well as your responsibility to master or not the art of it's creation. From a deep and heartfelt place of compassion that human words can't properly convey, I hope you will. The world needs more conscious creators and by becoming one of them you will be making a significant and much needed difference in making the world a better place for all.
Keep in mind always that once you have set your intention and you begin the process of it's inevitable unfolding you may have to look deeply within yourself and rekindle the trust even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts.
Regardless of what your personal challenges may consist of whether in the area of relationships or any other area of your life, rest assured that they are and must happen as a result of your determined focus but will inevitably lead to the fulfillment of what your predominant focus remains fixated upon.
Should you become temporarily weak or beaten down, consider the powerful truth revealed in the following quote…..
"Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not quite, the not at all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours" -Ayn Rand
Chuck Danes is the founder of Enlightened Journey Enterprises as well as an author, coach, personal performance trainer and the creator of The 7 Hidden Keys To Conscious Creation. For more than 3 decades Chuck has been assisting individuals around the world from all walks of life, in bridging the gap between where they are and where they truly desire to be in the physical, financial, relational, mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of their lives. Chuck's monthly personal empowerment ezine, Enlightened Journey is freely distributed to tens of thousands in 194 countries around the world.
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